Anonymous said: P.S. - I saw those two photos of you on the post surrounding scars. I hope this doesn't make you feel uncomfortable, but I'd like to say that I think you're really gorgeous, and your scars don't affect my judgement whatsoever. If anything, I think they stand as testament to your individual strength and life experiences, as sappy as that may sound <3
thank you! yeah I kinda gave up on the blog awhile ago, I felt like I was just repeating myself. :/ but that really does make me happy. :) and my scars are pretty neat, they’re lighter now but still really noticeable, I like showing them off. :)
Anonymous said: Actually, "Nice Guy" syndrome does happen in the context of our society telling men (cis white men in particular) that women owe them sex and control over their bodies. You can be a "Nice Guy" no matter what your gender, but you are far more likely to do it if you've been trained to feel entitled to other people's bodies (and have societal support to back you up).
Oh definitely. That’s why it’s named Nice Guy Syndrome. If it were something that univerally affected every group of people, it’d be Nice Person Syndrome. However the societal views of “you’re entitled to a hot girlfriend” + male privilege means that it’s super encouraged in white cishet guys.
Anonymous said: You should queue some stuff on your days off so you don't have to worry or get a coadmin you trust.
I should get a co-admin. Any applicants?
Anonymous said: How does Nice™ syndrome work in the LGBT community? Are there also like Nice Girls™ and Nice Transguys™ for them?
a lot of people say Nice Gals and Nice Girls sometimes to distinguish, but honestly Nice Guy and Nice Guy Syndrome can really apply to anyone, regardless of gender or sexuality. also it’s weird to distinguish based on trans or cis.
you’re not in the friend zone because you’re too nice, you’re in the friend zone because they’re too nice.
instead of just telling you that you’re an ugly fuck, they went through the trouble of creating some sort of pocket dimension that doesn’t exist to spare your bloated ego even though you most likely don’t deserve that since you’re selfishly trying to get your dick wet under the guise of friendship and kindness anyway.
Anonymous said: I like how you're waiting for submissions from anon but never post them...
Not really. I mean, I started this blog when I was sick and unable to work, so I spent time scouring the internet for Nice Guy posts. Plus, most of the big ones that we see circulating, I’ve already addressed. I feel like I’m just repeating myself a lot at this point, so I don’t post as often.
friend-zoning guys is horrible. it is disgusting. funzone them instead. send them to a small childs park so they can cry with the other babies when they dont get what they want.
(Source: plutoroyal, via theideaofbeinginlove-deactivate)
have you ever noticed that when a Nice Guy really likes a girl, he’s just following his heart ("I can’t help that I like you!”…”You lead me on!”…”I’ve felt this way since I met you!”…”I can’t change the way I feel!”)
but when that same girl really likes another guy, it’s apparently a cold, calculated move intended to screw him over ("Doesn’t she know that he’s a jerk?”…”How could she choose him?”…”I’m so nice to her, why wouldn’t she pick me?”…”What was she thinking?”)
funny how that works.
Anonymous said: SHITHEAD
so glad I turned anon back on
Anonymous said: I'd personally say the actual nice thing to do is if you're at a door first, hold it open for people immediately behind you. Gender shouldn't matter.
Anonymous said: u think it's nice guy behavior when a dude opens the door for you you express your mild discomfort by saying something like "oh, you shouldn't have" he then says "i'm a gentleman" omg, he's f*cking gentle alright i cannot stand that guy, god
thanks for telling me what i think
Anonymous said: I find the whole Idea of the "Friend Zone" utterly ridiculous. When I meet a woman I am attracted to, I make it clear at the start that I could be interested in dating down the road, but I would like to get to know her first and am content with friendship should that be her choice. It's very simple. Make your intentions clear and take rejection like an adult. BUT, circulating this stereotype is bad because it can cause men to be rejected when they are perceived as meeting even a tiny part of it.
You’re putting the cart before the horse. The Nice Guy label is not a stereotype of all men, it’s a label applied after people have started exhibiting Nice Guy behavior.