thoseoldfamilyvalues asked: Playing devil's advocate here. Wouldn't it be easier to resolve situations of "friendzoning" and nice guyism if the female part of the equation was more forthcoming with their lack of attraction? Especially early on, simply telling the guy off would either cause him to settle the hell down and lock down his expectations, or chase him off because his target simply isn't interested. The inherent issue is that this puts responsibility on the woman which, while unfair, could resolve most this stuff.
First off, calling her the “female part of the equation” is a bit derogatory. Second, if you’re looking to be friends with someone, it’s really rude to just flat out say, out of nowhere, “By the way dude, I don’t find you attractive at all and don’t have any interest in dating you ever.” Assuming that all guys only want sex is wrong and hurtful, and telling him off could chase away a potentially great friend.